The
scriptures referred to are 1 John 3:16-24.
My
granddaughter got a kitten this week. It is very young and just
weaned. She kept bringing it toys and I told her that it is a baby
and it has just been taken from its mom and siblings and familiar
surroundings. So I asked her how she would feel in the same
situation. And she said, “Sad. And lonely. And scared.” I said,
“Right. So you need to make her feel loved and safe, so she will
trust you and come to see you as her mommy and feel a part of the
family. Right now, she needs you to just hold her and pet her.”
Life
has always been a matter of learning whom to trust and whom not to. A
fortunate child has parents he or she can trust. This gives them the
confidence to try and to do things, secure in the knowledge that
their parents are reliable and have their best interests at heart.
But eventually you go into the wider world and find out not everyone
can be trusted. And, unfortunately, some kids learn that they can't
trust their parents and this also shapes the way they approach the
world.
The
same principle applies to machines, systems and institutions. People
become attached to certain products because of their reliable
performance. Some folks have had a system work well for them. Some
people have grown up in churches which gave them comfort and
inspiration and community and a sense of purpose.
But
again not everyone is so fortunate. Somebody said that a computer is
the most expensive thing you will ever buy that you just expect not
to work right at times. And so some people, having had a bad
experience with them, distrust them and avoid using them if they can.
Some people have had bad experiences with the justice system or some
other branch of government and consequently do not trust them. Some
people have had bad experiences with their church and, sadly, do not
trust any other church or religious persons in general.
Trust
affects behavior. If you trust a friend who recommends a restaurant,
you will probably go there for a meal. If you trust an expert, you
will take their advice. If you trust a news source, you will believe
their reporting on a subject.
So
what is crucial is whether the person or system or institution is
trustworthy. And we usually determine that on the basis of our
experience, our history with them, or with someone or something like
them. A person who is burned when investing in one venture may be
reluctant to ever invest again. A person dumped by one person they
had a relationship with will be wary of entering into another
relationship. Now that can be fine if the venture was a scam and you
learned the telltale signs of a scam and how to distinguish it from a
sound business venture. And if the other person in the relationship
was a sociopath or narcissist or abusive, it can be a good thing if
you are now able to spot the signs and symptoms of that kind of
person and then find someone who does not have a personality
disorder.
But
often people overgeneralize their experience. People raised in
trustworthy environments may be too naive and uncritical when they
encounter predatory people and groups. And those who grew up in
chaotic circumstances can have a hard time learning to trust others.
“Once burned, twice shy,” as the saying goes.
We
are seeing this play out in our country and in our world. Scandals
and abuses have damaged the trust people have in government and other
institutions. So we have a lot of people who do not trust the
vaccines that have been released. People of color remember the
Tuskegee study in which black men with syphilis were told they were
being treated but they were not, in order that the course of the
disease could be observed. Trust is built up or demolished by the
history of a relationship.
Trust
is vital to every relationship, from the one with the person you
trust to cut your hair properly, and who trusts you to pay them for
it, to those you love. It is difficult, if not impossible, to work
with someone you don't trust. Because trust affects how you behave
with them.
Trust,
which is also called faith, is therefore at the heart of our
relationship with God. And our history with God shows us we can trust
him. It begins with his love for us, demonstrated in the fact that
Jesus laid down his life for us. As Paul pointed out, it is rare for
someone to give his life for a good man, yet Jesus died for us while
we were still sinners. (Romans 5:7-8) The whole logic of our passage
in 1 John derives from this fact.
You
would trust somebody if they merely risked their life for you. If a
firefighter went into a burning building, found you and said, “This
way!” you would follow him. Jews trusted Gentile friends who hid
them from the Nazis during the Holocaust because, if found out, the
Gentiles would be sent to the death camps as well. And indeed some,
like Corrie Ten Boom and her family, were sent to the camps and some,
like her father and sister, died there. The Jews they hid and did not
betray were saved, however. You can trust someone who puts their life
on the line for you.
Jesus
is a unique case in that he did die for us. Usually you would be
grateful to such a person but their death would preclude any further
relationship. But Jesus rose again and so we can continue our
relationship with him and we can trust him more than anyone. Which
means when he says that “this is the way to live,” we should
follow him.
John
is focused on something we see all too often in the church: people
who say they believe in Jesus but their actions show that they don't.
Not really. And we are not merely talking about those who talk
righteously but do wicked things which are explicitly condemned by
Jesus. It can also take the form of affirming what Jesus said but not
actually doing anything about it. The example John chooses is the
person who supposedly is the recipient of God's love but who doesn't
do anything practical to help someone in need. If Jesus gave his life
for us, it is only appropriate that we his followers give
self-sacrificially out of love for others. And in most cases we are
not asked to give up our life, just give up stuff in our life to help
the lives of others.
“Little
children, let us love, not in word and speech, but in truth and
action.” Jesus told a parable in which a man asks his 2 sons to go
into the vineyard and work. One says, “No,” but later changes his
mind and does go. The other says, “Yes,” but doesn't actually go.
“Which of the two did what his father wanted?” asked Jesus. And
the answer is the first one. (Matthew 21:28-32) Words are cheap.
Proof of love is found in what you do, not what you say.
And
yet the church gets very invested in words. It has divided many, many
times over words. Not God's Word so much as our words seeking
to explain God's Word to our own satisfaction. And, yes, there are
parts of the Bible that are difficult to understand. But that
shouldn't distract us from the parts that are crystal clear. Like
Jesus' commands to love others, including our enemies. Like his
command to turn the other cheek and not repay evil with evil. Like
his explicit statement that what we do to the less fortunate, to the
hungry and thirsty and underdressed and sick and alien and
imprisoned, we do to him, for they are his family members. Like the
fact that he said the world would be able to identify his disciples
by their love for one another, not, you'll notice, by their theology
or their politics or denominational labels nor even by being
excessively and ostentatiously righteous. In other words, not by the
things church people so often think are the mark of the saved.
My
mom read the Bible to us at bedtime, but I didn't read it for myself
until I was a teen and I read a modern translation. And I was
impressed by how often the word “love” appeared in the Bible. 969
times in all its forms, according to openbible.info. That's way more
times than the words “holy” (686) or “righteous” (581) or
“righteousness” (284) or “pure” (104). Or even “faith”
(514). It's not that those things aren't important. But we tend to
talk even more about stuff that it is essential not to forget. And
God's Word talks about love a lot. Which makes sense since, as it
says in 1 John 4:8, “God is love.”
All
the other virtues come from love. If you are indifferent to other
people, you do not care about justice for them. Or peace. Or
forgiveness. Nor do those things matter if you hate other people. But
if you love people, you want to see them treated fairly and justly.
You want them to be well and live in peace. You are willing to be
merciful and forgive them. God loves us and that why he wants those
things for us. And why he demands them from us.
Everything
follows from the logic of love. And love acts when those we love need
action. When your child or your spouse or your best friend needs
help, you provide it or find someone who can. You don't stand around
mouthing pious platitudes or wishing them well. You act. And that's
what John is saying. “Let us love, not in word or speech, but in
truth and in action.”
And
again, if you really love someone, you care about the truth. You
don't want a doctor lying about your loved one's diagnosis or
prognosis. You don't want your loved one to lie either. And you know
that if you lie to them it is a betrayal of the trust that upholds
your relationship. The truth is not always easy but lies and
falsehoods poison relationships.
Another
thing that love does is motivate you to help your loved one be the
best version of themselves. You want your child to be a good person.
You want to be married to a good person. You want to be friends with
a good person. So if you see them doing or contemplating destructive
or self-destructive actions, you speak to them and encourage them to
be better than that. You may even have to be blunt at times, if they
don't respond to gentler language. You may love them regardless, but
certain actions and words can damage and cripple the relationship and
nobody in love wants that.
Ultimately
John summarizes it thus: “And this is his commandment, that we
should believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one
another, just as he has commanded us.” That is what Jesus requires
of us in a nutshell. First, that we should put our trust in the
essential nature of Jesus, the Son of God, who is his Anointed One.
If God is love, then Jesus is love incarnate, love embodied in a
person who is both fully human and fully divine. Jesus both knows and
understands what it is like to be human and he can also use his power
to help and to save us. And that why we can trust him.
But
while we are saved by his grace when we put our trust in him, we are
also to reflect his nature in our lives by loving others. If God is
love and we are created in the image of God, we are most like God
when we love. And the recovery of that image of God in us is a big
reason Jesus came to us and did what he did. If we do not love, it
would be like Superman discovering his powers and then not using them
to help the world, but just using his heat vision to make popcorn.
Worse, 1 John 4:8 says, “Whoever does not love does not know God,
for God is love.” A Christian who does not love others is a
contradiction in terms.
But
who, apart from God, can love everyone? Nobody. Not unless we have
God's Spirit living in us and through us. We receive his Spirit at
baptism and we are to grow in his Spirit. However, as Paul reveals,
one can quench the Spirit. (1 Thessalonians 5:19) One can ignore his
voice and his urging as did Jonah. So we can resist God's Spirit
within us. But if we do not obey his commandments, how can we say we
are his followers?
If
you trust someone who has more knowledge than you, you do what they
say. God knows everything, as our passage reminds us. So we do what
he says. And he says to put our trust in Jesus and love one another.
That's the only thing that will really change the world in the way
God wants it to be changed.
People
try to change the world with force and intimidation. If those don't
succeed they use manipulation and deceit. Those things can change the
world but not for the better. One study found that violent movements
only succeed ¼ of the time. Non-violent movements succeed twice as
often. And as for lies, they are eventually exposed.
We
are to show our love in truth and in action. Like the first
Christians who showed God's love to the poor (Acts 4:34-35), to the
sick and disabled (Acts 5:16; 8:7), to those in prison (Acts
16:22-34) and to people of all races and nations (Acts 8:26-37). The
church went on to build hospitals and schools. The abolition movement
was begun by Christians as was the civil rights movement. Today
churches run homeless shelters and food pantries and literacy
programs. Local churches provide space for AA and other support
groups. National churches help immigrants get settled. They are often
the first to respond to disasters through their relief programs. By
acting together, we can fulfill Jesus' words that we will do greater
works than his. (John 14:12)
But
that doesn't excuse us as individuals from showing love to the people
we meet in ways, big and small. Our witness is crucial. We are made
in God's image, which Jesus, the very image of God, came to restore.
And our goal is to grow and become more Christlike every day. We may
be the only Christ some people encounter. And while we may not yet
offer a perfect reflection of the God who is love, we should at least
not introduce distortions into our reflection of him. We need to be
trustworthy and loving.
People,
like kittens taken to a new home, can be sad and lonely and scared.
They need a place where they feel safe and loved. They need people
they can trust and who make them feel a part of the family. And if
they find this faith and love they will also find hope—hope of a
new life with their loving heavenly Father and his Son who loves them
enough to die for them and the Spirit who pours out his love into
their hearts for all eternity.