This was based on a sermon suggestion.
There are a surprising number of websites that will tell you when you are going to die. My favorite is deathclock.com. You put in your birthdate, sex, body mass index (there's a helpful calculator for that where you put in your height and weight) and whether you are a smoker or not. Then it gives you a specific date on which, according to actuarial tables, you will die. It also gives it to you in seconds which are counting down. What I like about the death clock is that you can choose from 4 modes. At the normal setting I got Friday, July 28, 2028. The optimistic setting gave me Saturday, October 8, 2050. At the pessimistic setting I drew Thursday, May 10, 2012. Then there's the sadistic setting which gave me Monday, July 29, 1991. In the last two cases a pop-up window appeared saying, “”I am sorry, but your time has expired! Have a nice day.”
The site, however, doesn't factor in such things as your parents' longevity, (mine lived to be 91 and 88), whether you exercise or whether you go to church. People who attend worship once a week tend to live between 7 and 14 years longer than those who don't. Those who worship more than once a week live an additional year. (That's a bonus for those who attend Ash Wednesday, Maundy Thursday and Good Friday services!) The death clock is mostly for fun, of course, though it does link to a site that sells vitamins, presumably to decrease your risk. The fact is that science can only predict generally how long groups of people in certain categories will live, based on averages. It cannot, as yet, tell you as an individual when you will die, even if you rule out accidents or murder.
But what if they could? I once read a science fiction story set in a society where science could tell every person the exact date of their death. Some people react by holding celebrations that year. Some set out to make the days they have meaningful or exciting. Others get depressed or even commit suicide beforehand, not wanting to die of the heart attack or stroke or cancer they will inevitably suffer. Not everyone wants to know.
According to our sermon suggestion for this month, there are those who aren't happy with God knowing such things either. This comes out of our adult form class on Rick Warren's book The Purpose Driven Life. Warren says that God has chosen the exact time of your birth and death. The question is “Why worry or take care of yourself'” if the days of your life have been planned and ordained “...especially the date of your death?”
First, let's see if the Bible actually says what Warren says it does. He quotes Psalm 139:16: “You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book.” That's the Living Bible version, a popular paraphrase. It's popular because it makes the Bible easy to understand, even in passages which, in the original languages, are tough to translate and interpret. This passage is Hebrew poetry, which is notoriously difficult to untangle in some places. The Jewish Publication Society's Tanakh version renders this verse differently: “Your eyes saw my unformed limbs; they were all recorded in your book; in due time they were formed, to the very last of them.” Here the things being recorded are the body parts of a fetus in the womb, not the days of the person's life after they were born. And this translation fits the context of the previous verse, which is about the psalmist's frame and shape, much better than the paraphrase.
Either way, we do expect God to be in control of his creation and that includes us. So how much of our lives are predestined?
Mainstream Christians have differed more on this controversy than on most other theological matters. The positions taken are some of the most technically tough to delineate with precision. So I might be stepping on some theological toes and overstating some positions or neglecting certain nuances in what follows.
Basically, on the one hand you have John Calvin's idea that God's sovereignty trumps everything else. Sin has so crippled our wills that they cannot be considered free. We cannot choose good by ourselves. God has the right to condemn everyone to hell but out of his grace he has elected to save some. This has nothing to do with what they have done, good or bad, so he is not rewarding merit. In fact, God decided who would be saved before Adam's fall. The problem with this position is that it makes God's condemnation of any sinners since the original couple unjust since we had no ability to choose differently. Because God controls everything, it is hard to avoid the idea that God is ultimately the author of sin, despite what the Westminster Confession says. (cf. 1 John 1:5)
The opposite position is that of Pelagius, a British contemporary of St. Augustine. Augustine also emphasized predestination, though he did not develop it to the extent that Calvin did. Pelagius rejected the idea of original sin and held that our will is not biased towards evil. We can freely choose good or evil. So our condemnation for our sins is completely our fault. What we get is pure justice for what we have done. The problem with this position is that there is no need for God's grace or Christ's sacrifice. Since we can freely choose to change, why should God choose to have mercy on us and excuse us from the penalty for what we have done? It would be like declaring “not guilty” a murderer who was not insane or drug-addled or otherwise impaired or under compulsion or defending himself when he did the deed. He could have done otherwise but he chose to kill in cold blood. Pelagianism was condemned at the Council of Ephesus in 431.
There is a modified Calvinist position. It was articulated by James Arminius, one of Calvin's followers who nevertheless disagreed with him on this matter. Arminianism holds that while our will was negatively affected by sin, we can at least choose to accept or reject God's salvation offered in Christ. Unlike the unconditional predestination of Calvinism, Arminius taught that our predestination by God is conditional in that God chose whom to save based on his foreknowledge of who would accept his offer of salvation. One consequence of Arminianism is the idea that believers can lose their salvation by exercising their will to reject God. The Methodist church is Arminian.
Now why am I talking about whether our salvation is predestined rather than whether the details of our lives are predestined? Because if we have no real choice in the biggest decision in our life, whether or not to accept Christ, then it follows that we cannot make any other decisions. My problem with traditional Calvinism is that it makes our lives one big puppet show by God. Why would Jesus tell people to repent if they had no choice? (Mark 1:15) Why would he tell them that their faith in God healed them if that faith wasn't really theirs but wholly supplied by God? (Luke 8:48)
What advantage is there in the Calvinist position? Well, if your accepting salvation is totally dependent upon God, then you needn't worry that you might lose it. It is not dependent on your sin-damaged self. It is pure grace. There are some passages in the Bible that seem to support it. But by the same token, it would seem to take away the responsibility of a person's sinfulness from them. Those bound for hell are literally irredeemable. To a Calvinist, asking the non-elect to accept Christ would be like asking a crippled person to dance. They simply can't. It is outside of their ability.
I lean a little towards the Arminian position. You know why? Ever try to feed a baby something it didn't like? Despite the fact that it can do almost nothing by itself, it can spit things out. And once it gets control of its neck and head, it learns to turn away from the bottle or spoon. It's not much of a movement but it is enough to frustrate a parent trying to give it what it needs. To change the metaphor, when it comes to our salvation, we are like addicts who cannot kick our addiction to sin by ourselves. But we can at least say “Yes” or “No” to someone who offers to save us, which is Jesus. Our moral capacity for choice is crippled but it is not completely absent.
But if we control our will, even to a limited extent, doesn't that mean that God is not completely in control of everything? And isn't a God who is not in control of everything a contradiction is terms? Not really. We're not saying that God can't control things but that it is possible that he may not want to. In other words, he can willingly limit his own actions in order to give us the room to exercise our own wills. And he does this out of love because love wants the consent of the loved one. God will not force us to accept him.
Also if you want a baby to learn to walk, you have to let it take steps on its own, despite the fact that it isn't very good at it and it's fighting gravity. A good parent realizes that just because they can control a situation doesn't mean that they should in every situation, especially if they want their children to grow and learn.
So does God decide what will happen every second of our lives? For some, to answer “Yes” is comforting. If you feel your life is not in your control, it is good to know that God is in control of everything. If you are in a less than ideal situation, you may find it more tolerable to think that God put you in that situation for a reason. And it can give you hope. God is in control and so some good will come out of even the bad things in our life.
For others they may find it intolerable to think that they are in a bad situation because God put them there deliberately. If God is good and in control, why would he put anyone in a less than optimum situation?
First, let's acknowledge that sin and evil are realities and that there are people in situations where those two terrible realities predominate. Think of a child raised in an abusive home. Did God put him or her there? Or did God permit them to be there? Even if God did not actively put the person in that situation, then he must have at least permitted them to end up there. Either way, they are there. So the real question is what is the reason they are there?
Gavin de Becker is a specialist in analyzing threats to security. He has worked for the government in assessing assassination threats, for corporations in determining whether certain disgruntled ex-employees will retaliate and for celebrities who are dealing with stalkers. His own childhood was less than secure. His mother was a heroin addict, who shot one of his stepfathers. When he tells his story in prisons, many of the inmates say to him, “That was my childhood. Why did I end up here while you are a free man?” De Becker says that it was a matter of how he reacted to his awful upbringing. To protect himself and his little sister, he learned to read his mother's moods and actions. He developed that ability into a field of study and as an adult he used what he learned about threats of violence to help protect others. He even wrote a book, The Gift of Fear, to help the average person recognize the red flags and precursors of potentially dangerous people and circumstances. His bad situation gave him the tools to help others avoid or manage their own bad situations.
In his book The Survivors Club, Ben Sherwood writes about Dr. Rachel Yehuda, a pioneer in researching Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. One of her patients was a Polish woman who lost her family in the Holocaust. The woman married another survivor. They moved to the US and built a good life. But in her old age, she got depressed after being widowed and losing both a son and grandson to cancer. She had always thought that her children were the way to triumph over the Nazis' attempt to exterminate her family. Now she found that she couldn't protect her family from death even in America. Why was God punishing her? Why did he allow her to see her son and grandson die? Why did he allow her to see her 14-year old granddaughter suffer the loss of her father and brother as the old woman had back in World War II?
Dr. Yehuda, the daughter of Holocaust survivors herself, made a startling statement. She said she thought the patient's granddaughter was fortunate. The patient got angry, thinking that her doctor was joining God in mocking her. But then Dr. Yehuda explained. The patient's granddaughter at least had someone who understood what it was like to lose family members when you're young. Imagine what it would have been like if the patient had a grandmother to comfort her at that time. She could offer her granddaughter what she, the patient, did not have when in the same situation. Seen that way, the patient consented to be treated for her depression so that she in turn could be there for her grieving granddaughter.
God is in the business of saving and healing. Whatever our situation, God is there for us. And we are to be in the same business of saving and healing as our heavenly Father. Which means that we have to be where suffering is. Whether God deliberately puts us in a bad situation or allows us to be put there or allows us to put ourselves in bad situations, the important thing is not how we got there but what we are to do while we are there. We can get bitter or we can work to make things better, for others if not for ourselves. Though Christians may debate the ultimate cause of our circumstances, we can agree on our basic mission wherever we find ourselves. We are here to help.
There are people we call first responders who are sent into disaster areas specifically to help. But there they find people who were living in the area when the disaster hit and who are already at work digging people out and helping them. Whether they were sent there or found themselves there, these people realize that the thing to do in a bad situation is to help one another and rebuild their lives so that they are better than they were.
People can debate whether God is like Shakespeare, in control because he decided beforehand how the characters in his drama will act, or if he is like a chess grandmaster, in control because he able to foresee his opponents' moves and has a countermove ready in each case, but this is not something that we will decide here. Nor, from our perspective, would we be able to tell the difference, just as we cannot tell if the date of our death is written in our DNA or not. Suffice it to say that God will achieve his ultimate goal, which is the redemption and restoration of his creation to the paradise he originally intended it to be. We can be part of his mission or we can sit around arguing the finer points of theology. Let us put our trust in God's justice and grace and love. And let us say “Yes” to his offer of life and purpose in Jesus. It's why we are here.
This sermon was first preached on April 11, 2010. It has been revised and updated.